Questions to ask a babysitter before the first booking

A cleared Working With Children Check tells you the state looked at a specific set of records and found nothing disqualifying. It is worth having, and it is narrow. It says nothing about whether someone will notice a child has gone quiet. This guide is about the part you have to work out for yourself, in one conversation, before you leave the house. If you have nobody to ask yet, babysitters in Sydney is the list, and find a babysitter in Sydney covers where to look first.

Start with the part that is checkable

If the babysitter holds a Check, verify it before you spend time on anything else. It is free, it takes about two minutes, and we have written up how to check a babysitter's WWCC step by step. Do that first and the conversation changes shape: you are no longer trying to work out whether someone is safe in the abstract, you are working out whether they suit your family.

Not every casual babysitter holds one, and in most states somebody privately arranged to sit in your own home is not legally required to. That is a real distinction rather than a loophole, and it is covered in babysitter vs nanny. Asking anyway is reasonable.

The five questions worth asking

Send these in one message rather than drip-feeding them. It respects the babysitter's time, and the speed and shape of the reply is itself information.

The first one replaces "how many years have you been babysitting?", which sounds like the useful question and is not. Someone with six years of school-age experience and someone with six years of babies have the same number and completely different skills. Ask which ages, and listen for whether they distinguish between a two-year-old and a four-year-old.

The second is the one that earns its place. You are not looking for a disaster story. You are looking for whether they can describe a hard evening without either dramatising it or pretending it never happened. The answer is usually mundane, which is the point.

The third works because it is specific to your child. Swap in whatever your evenings actually throw up: the toddler who climbs out of the cot, the eight-year-old who negotiates. A babysitter who has done the work will answer with what they would try first and what they would do if that failed. One who has not will answer with reassurance.

The fifth question is not about safety and is the one most people leave out. A babysitter who is vague about getting home from your suburb at eleven at night is one who cancels, or who starts watching the clock at nine. Sort it before the booking, along with the rate — which belongs in the same message, and is covered in babysitter rates in Sydney.

What a good answer sounds like

Specifics, and a child in them. "I had a four-year-old who would not go down unless the hall light stayed on, so I started leaving it on before bath" is a real answer. "I am great with kids, they always love me" is not an answer, it is a description of themselves.

Watch for someone who has never had anything go wrong. Anyone who has sat regularly has had a child refuse to eat, a nappy fail, a parent come home two hours late. A babysitter who reports a clean record has either not worked much or is managing you, and both are worth knowing before you book rather than after.

You are also allowed to notice how they talk about children who were difficult. Warmth about a hard child is a much better sign than competence about an easy one.

What to ask a babysitter's references

Most people ask for references and never call. Calling takes five minutes, and the person on the other end has already agreed to be contacted, so there is nothing to apologise for.

Start with how the two of them know each other, because it changes the weight of everything said after it: a family they sat for carries more than an aunt or a netball coach. A reference sent through this site says it already, since the babysitter picks the relationship when they add it, so the first question is really for names that came from anywhere else. Then pin down the shape. Two years of most Fridays and two evenings last summer are both real answers, and you want to know which one you have. Ages matter here for the reason they mattered when you asked the babysitter: someone who was excellent with your eight-year-old has not been tested by a one-year-old, and the referee knows which they saw.

The fourth question is the one worth waiting out. A locked door, a fever at nine o'clock, a bump that needed a phone call. What you want is the story told plainly, and what the babysitter did next. The fifth gets at the same thing from the side a referee finds easier to say out loud. A referee with one small thing is telling you the truth. A referee with nothing at all may not have used them much.

Leave "would you book them again" until last. Ask it plainly and then stop talking. If the answer is no, ask what changed: usually a house move or children who outgrew it, said without prompting, and a vague answer there is worth more attention than anything else on the call.

Listen to the pause more than the answer. Almost nobody will say something damning about a person they liked well enough to hire, but "yes, constantly, they are with us on Saturday" and "yes, they were fine" are different replies and you will hear the difference immediately.

Then take the whole call for what it is. The babysitter chose these names, and nobody hands you the family they left on bad terms, so what you get is the best case rather than the average one. That is the difference between a reference and a WWCC, which looks at a record nobody picked for you. Work out whether the best case is good enough, and let the first booking do the rest.

A family who would rather not be rung is an answer too, though not a damning one. Some people do not want their number passed on, which is fair. It is names that never arrive, or arrive and then go quiet when you follow them up, that tell you something.

On this site a babysitter can keep up to five references on their profile: a name, how they know them, roughly when, and a phone number or an email address. The public profile says how many there are, and they send you the details in a message when you ask. We do not contact them ourselves, so the list is theirs and the calling is yours, the same as it would be anywhere else. If all you get is an email address, send the same questions in writing and read the reply the same way.

The trial beats every answer

Book the first session short, and be somewhere you can get back from quickly. An hour while you have coffee up the road is enough. You are not supervising. Both of you get a low-stakes first go.

Afterwards, ask your child. Not "did you like them?", which gets you a yes, but what they did. The detail children volunteer about an adult they enjoyed is hard to fake, in either direction.

Then look at the house. Spotlessness is irrelevant. What matters is whether the things you asked for actually happened. A babysitter who wrote down the bedtime you gave them and stuck to it within ten minutes has told you more than an hour of conversation could.

What we check, and what we leave to you

A verified badge on this site means we ran the WWCC check ourselves with the register in the state that issued it, on a date we record, and separately confirmed a government photo ID against a matching selfie, with the names and dates of birth required to match. That is the whole claim. The full detail is on what the badge covers.

We do not check references, first aid certificates, or the years of experience on a profile. Those sit on profiles as the babysitter's own claims and are labelled that way, because we have not verified them and will not imply otherwise. A profile with no badge means at least one of those two checks is not confirmed, and the profile says which one in the place the badge would sit. For somebody who has just listed, that is the ordinary state rather than a warning.

So the questions above are not a fallback for when a babysitter is unverified. They are the half of the job that stays with you either way.